The Questions · the self · the states
Are you playing your moods, or are they playing you?
Rooms lean people, and so do days. The question is not whether you get leaned — you do — but who is doing the choosing afterwards.
The weak self is stuck in whatever state it gets leaned into.
The strong self chooses which to lean into.
What this settles
So the difference is not how much a person feels. It is whether the state that arrives is the state they stay in — and that is a question about strength rather than about temperament.
What it leaves open
Where is the persona that makes me good at one thing quietly failing me at another?
Raised in this footing and not answered anywhere in the work.
Not this question
Which face is really you?
Also in this footing, and a different question. It answers that the two-faced man is not the one who changes — he is the one who gets changed.
Also asked as
- Are you played by your states, or playing them?
Where this is worked out
Played by Your States, or Playing Them
Are You Playing Your Moods, or Are They Playing You?
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The persona
Choosing which state walks into the room instead of taking the one handed to you — why that is range and not a mask, and what happens when the choosing runs by itself. 3 of the 5 here have been worked through; the rest are on the map and not yet walked.
- Which face is really you?walked
- Who’s choosing them?walked
- Does this ever get so trained it goes automatic?not explored yet
- Where is the persona that makes me good at one thing quietly failing me at another — and do I have the self to take it off?not explored yet